life's troubles

i've been watching BOF this morning and i marked a conversation between Min Seo Hyun (portrayed by Han Chae Young) and Geum Jan Di (portrayed by Koo Hye Sun).

Seo Hyun was telling Jan Di that Goo Joon Pyo (portrayed by Lee Min Ho) was a actually a sad person and had a lonely childhood that is why he's been acting rude to everyone else.

well, that's true. people nowadays are get caught up with their loneliness, their own anxieties in life, their complicated problems, their seemingly unending sorrows and troubles. that is why they become bitter and a bit rude to the world.

i experienced this myself. there came a time when i felt bertrayed and used by someone i already learned to trust. i was so mad. i became a different person, less mild, less gentle, very temperemental, i seldom smile during those times. and as much as possible i avoided people. i don't feel like mingling with anyone else even to my own family and closest friends. i don't want to talk for i know i will uncontrollably just throw stabbing words to anyone who would try to put me in a conversation.

this is my style to avoid hurting anyone during my "maddened" state - i just keep quiet. i rationalize my thoughts. i discipline myself. i soulfully feel the negative emotion until it's all exhausted. i let myself cry. i repair the damage silently until i heal.

so i was thinking, if ever we meet a person who is harsh and rude, we put this in mind - that person is struggling on his own emotions, trying to release a heavy burden inside him by being hard on others. i don't know the exact scientific or psychological explanation about it, but that is how other people react on their own negative emotions. they become rude and harsh on others.

as Covey said in his book, 7 Habits, we need to have a paradigm shift about life and people. we just don't easily judge them on their actions. we try our very best to understand what's going on in them.

so if someone's being rude on us, we should try our very best to be mild and controlled. listen to what they have to say. understand their words and try not to let their anger gets to you. it's rooting from something, we're sure of that. and it's up to us to find that out.. we try not to retaliate on their words for it has been said out of impulse, moved by anger. we will be hurt, for sure, for we are mere humans who has feelings and emotions. but enduring the pain and overbearing your emotions with your mind, will make you a much stronger person. promise, you'll be more proud on yourself if you were able to do that. for that is never easy. :)

it takes great strength of character to control your own emotions and still can act mild and gentle. so lonely people has a tendency to act unkind. they will draw their attention more to themselves for they feel that they have been ignored of something. they will not be kind and gentle to everyone for they feel that the world has been rude to them, in as much. they will try to raise themselves up by pulling others down. that's how they will work. but if we are wise, insightful, compassionate and sympathetiv enough to see all these things, then most probably we could help them come out from their own dark world. but if they don't want help, and opted to be enslaved and agonized by bitterness, then we could do nothing about it. we continue living happily and turn our attention to others.

oh well, this world will surely pose and throw us off our feet. not everyone will show us compassion and kindness. but it's really up to us on how we will react, it depends on us on how we will be affected. it's in our hands if we will be happy or bitter in this life, it's in our hands if we will be a considered a HAPPEE or a LONELEE.

it's our choice, our own very choise. :)

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